Couple’s Privilege

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A listing of the best sites to find out more about unicorn hunting and couple’s privilege.

Unicorn Hunting: In dominant polyamory culture, almost always used of a hypothetical woman who is willing to date both members of an existing couple, agree not to have any relationships other than the ones with the couple, agree not to be sexually involved with one member of the couple unless the other member of the couple is also there, and/or agree to move in with the couple. So named because people willing to agree to such arrangements are vanishingly rare, whereas couples looking for a woman who will agree to these terms are incredibly common.

Couple’s Privilege: The presumption that socially sanctioned pair-bond relationships involving only two people (such as marriage, long-term boyfriend/girlfriend, or other forms of conventional intimate/life partnerships) are inherently more important, “real” and valid than other types of intimate, romantic or sexual relationships. Such primary couples (or partnerships that are clearly riding society’s standard relationship escalator toward that goal) are widely presumed — even within many nonmonogamous communities — to warrant more recognition and support than other types of intimate relationships.

How to Date as a Couple

Polyamory and Statistics or, “Why haven’t we found our third yet?”

https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/

https://www.morethantwo.com/coupleprivilege.html

https://findpoly.com/blog/unicorn-hunting/

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dynamics-polyamory-couple-privilege/

https://medium.com/@walkerjd235/what-is-couple-privilege-be4c1ef14dac

http://solopoly.net/2013/02/05/couple-privilege-having-it-doesnt-necessarily-make-you-an-asshole-but-it-can/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-without-limits/201307/couple-privilege-and-the-ecology-intimate-relationships

https://medium.com/@thelolaphoenix/five-reasons-couple-privilege-doesn-t-exist-2bd2cf238c67

https://solopoly.net/2012/12/03/couple-privilege-your-thoughts/

https://polypretzels.wordpress.com/tag/couple-privilege/

http://www.criticalpolyamorist.com/homeblog/couple-centricity-polyamory-and-colonialism

https://www.elle.com/life-love/sex-relationships/news/a39126/open-marriage-secondary-partners/

https://supermelly.com/2015/06/22/shifting-the-paradigm-and-couples-privilege/

https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2016/06/10/can-polyamorous-hierarchies-ethical-part-1-tower-village/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/comment/reply/1092902/862836

https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2016/02/calling-out-okcupids-poly-couple.html

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